Observations on My Relationships
I hate my friends. I really do. Everyone down here, I don't really actually like. And the ones I sort of like have this mutual habit of not calling. On person - who shall remain nameless, but Angela, I'm sure you know who she is - is probably the most selfish person on this planet and I can't take it anymore. The worst of all people is the selfish person who thinks they aren't. I hate everyone right now!!! I know, I sound like Scrooge, but if you knew the people I do, you would be saying it too.
Here are some "friends" that, over the years, I have come to realize somehow always find me, complete with examples:
A) The Selfish B---h (we're goin' for a PG rating here, folks) : This person thinks only of themselves, in every situation. They disguise it really well though, especially thru the form of small gifts and lots of phone calls. But when you peel back all that crap, you realize they only have selfish motives. The phone calls are to talk about themselves. The gifts don't even count. When it comes down to being loyal to their friend or pleasing themselves, the obvious answer is to always please themself.
B) The Backstabber : This person is usually simultaneously "friend" A, also. They, frankly, don't give a crap about friendships or trust. Loyalty? What's that? They like to blame their "commitment" or "loyalty" problems on tragic things that happened to them in the past, but that's just a bunch of bull. Eveyone has a past. You don't see the rest of us using it as a constant excuse. They also like to pretend to be sorry, but they never really are. To quote Rhett Butler, "You're like the thief whose not the least bit sorry he stole, but is terribly, terribly sorry he's going to jail."
C) The Insecure Basketcase: This person is usually a type B also. This person is so insanely insecure that it's not even funny. They try to mask it and fool those who don't know them well. But in reality, they use anything and anyone they can to find some sense of self worth, and in the process, find it nowhere. They realize they have a problem, but don't even have the slightest idea how huge it is. They're always fishing for compliments and, in most cases, are sluts.
D) The One You Can Count On Not Being Able to Count On: The only thing you can count on this person for is to let you down. You know they will, but some how are disappointed everytime. They never call when they say they will. They never show up when they say they will. And they never even seem to have excuses. They just don't talk about it. I know there is some psychological reason, but I have yet to come up with a theory for this one.
E) The Drama Queen: It seems as though their goal is to turn their life into a combo of Beverly Hill 90210, The Young and the Restless and The OC. Everything is blown out of proportion and they are just searching for drama in every aspect of life. This person is secretly extremely bored and disappointed in their life. Not knowing how to change, they just act instead.
F) The One Who Doesn't Really Want to Be Just Friends: You pull the "let's be just friends" spiel and actually mean it. You really do want to be friends w/ this person, you just don't want to date them. They say ok and really do seem ok with it. You hang out once or twice as friends and everything seems pretty normal. Not 100% but ok. Then they start acting all weird on you. Bailing out and not calling. You realize that this person does not want to be you friend. Which is weird, cuz that's what you all started off as, so they should be happy. So basically, this person is a liar.
G) The Pleaser: This person isn't really a people pleaser, they just say whatever is necessary to please you. And why? Because they want you to do what they want you to - but they make you think that you're doing it on your own. You think they are genuine, but really, they are very dangerous. The Pleaser pretty much just wants to use you.
These are a few of the mentally unstable types that I have come across multiple times, in multiple states in my 20 years. Beware of them ... which is really pointless to say cuz most of the time you don't realize you've got them till it's too late.
Thank you for listening to my rant and please feel free to leave your comments, including stories on those you have encounted -- do it for my sanity, so I know I'm not the only one dealing with these psychopaths.
Here are some "friends" that, over the years, I have come to realize somehow always find me, complete with examples:
A) The Selfish B---h (we're goin' for a PG rating here, folks) : This person thinks only of themselves, in every situation. They disguise it really well though, especially thru the form of small gifts and lots of phone calls. But when you peel back all that crap, you realize they only have selfish motives. The phone calls are to talk about themselves. The gifts don't even count. When it comes down to being loyal to their friend or pleasing themselves, the obvious answer is to always please themself.
B) The Backstabber : This person is usually simultaneously "friend" A, also. They, frankly, don't give a crap about friendships or trust. Loyalty? What's that? They like to blame their "commitment" or "loyalty" problems on tragic things that happened to them in the past, but that's just a bunch of bull. Eveyone has a past. You don't see the rest of us using it as a constant excuse. They also like to pretend to be sorry, but they never really are. To quote Rhett Butler, "You're like the thief whose not the least bit sorry he stole, but is terribly, terribly sorry he's going to jail."
C) The Insecure Basketcase: This person is usually a type B also. This person is so insanely insecure that it's not even funny. They try to mask it and fool those who don't know them well. But in reality, they use anything and anyone they can to find some sense of self worth, and in the process, find it nowhere. They realize they have a problem, but don't even have the slightest idea how huge it is. They're always fishing for compliments and, in most cases, are sluts.
D) The One You Can Count On Not Being Able to Count On: The only thing you can count on this person for is to let you down. You know they will, but some how are disappointed everytime. They never call when they say they will. They never show up when they say they will. And they never even seem to have excuses. They just don't talk about it. I know there is some psychological reason, but I have yet to come up with a theory for this one.
E) The Drama Queen: It seems as though their goal is to turn their life into a combo of Beverly Hill 90210, The Young and the Restless and The OC. Everything is blown out of proportion and they are just searching for drama in every aspect of life. This person is secretly extremely bored and disappointed in their life. Not knowing how to change, they just act instead.
F) The One Who Doesn't Really Want to Be Just Friends: You pull the "let's be just friends" spiel and actually mean it. You really do want to be friends w/ this person, you just don't want to date them. They say ok and really do seem ok with it. You hang out once or twice as friends and everything seems pretty normal. Not 100% but ok. Then they start acting all weird on you. Bailing out and not calling. You realize that this person does not want to be you friend. Which is weird, cuz that's what you all started off as, so they should be happy. So basically, this person is a liar.
G) The Pleaser: This person isn't really a people pleaser, they just say whatever is necessary to please you. And why? Because they want you to do what they want you to - but they make you think that you're doing it on your own. You think they are genuine, but really, they are very dangerous. The Pleaser pretty much just wants to use you.
These are a few of the mentally unstable types that I have come across multiple times, in multiple states in my 20 years. Beware of them ... which is really pointless to say cuz most of the time you don't realize you've got them till it's too late.
Thank you for listening to my rant and please feel free to leave your comments, including stories on those you have encounted -- do it for my sanity, so I know I'm not the only one dealing with these psychopaths.
Looks like you're the only one...
=P
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